Over the past couple of years, I have grown to love reading. This has not always been the case. For a long time, I HATED reading. It was hard for me, and I did not enjoy reading. And while it is still hard for me, due to my learning disability, it is something that has helped me grow as a person so much that I find so much value in doing it. I try to read at least a chapter of a book every day. This year I have an ambitious goal. I want to read 50 books this year. Well, I am two and a half books in, and I am loving it. I’m going to need to pick of the pace if I want to get through all the books on my list this year, but fingers crossed I do!
Today I want to share with y’all a review of a book that changed the way I think about so many things. The book is called The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson. It is a New York Times Bestseller and has truly changed the way I think about life and how to go about living life.
There are a couple of things in this book that stood out to me, and I want to share them with you. The first is that we need to take responsibility for everything. There is a difference between being at fault for something and taking responsibility for something. For example, it is not my fault that I have a heart condition or a mental illness, but it is my responsibility to manage both of those and take responsibility for my illnesses. You see the difference there.
In our society, we can often mix up the two words fault and responsibility. They are different, and we need to learn to take responsibility for everything that affects us. If someone says something mean to us, that’s not our fault, but what we have responsibility for is how we respond to that mean comment and how we let it affect our lives. When I read the chapter of the book talking about this, I was in awe. Literally, I made my fiancé stop what he was doing so I could tell him about it. Not only that but I have been working on changing the way I think about things. I have been looking at what is my responsibility versus what is my fault. I have been owning whatever is my responsibility even if it is not my fault. This mindset shift, while a challenge for sure, is something that I feel is going to be transformational in my life and yours.
The other thing that stood out to me was the idea that we only have so many f*cks to give and that we need to decide where to give them. We honestly can’t care about everything, and we also can’t care about nothing. It’s truly impossible to do either of those things and not feel overwhelmed or anxious. We have to decide where we are going to spend our energy and what we are going to invest our time into. Whatever you want to give you energy to is up to you, but we need to decide what is most important to us and how we are going to invest our time into these things.
These are just two of the many things that changed my life for the better. Truly you will not regret reading this book. I highly recommend it!